Written by my wonderful mother ~
1. Have dessert for dinner.
2. Stay up late, wake up early.
3. Go camping.
5. Exercise. No matter what. You will always feel better after it.
6. Take naps.
7. Make coffee dates with your grandmother, consistently.
8. If you want something, ask. Always.
9. That stain on your shirt? That pimple? Your flat/frizzy hair? Those 3 pounds you gained? No one, and I mean no one, is noticing it. Only you.
10. Take mental health days.
11. Every home needs an animal.
12. Every home needs a baby.
13. Thinking about going back to school?? Do it. Time is going to pass anyway-go to college.
14. When a person is quiet and doesn’t smile, that doesn’t mean they are mean or rude. Be the one to talk and smile. You will see the change in them, even for only a brief moment.
15. Strike up conversations with strangers. Especially the elderly. While in line, at restaurants, etc. their stories are fascinating.
16. Those things you said you’d never do or weren’t interested in? Do them. Step out of your box.
17. Embrace the differences in people. These differences make: the work day go faster, raising kids an exciting, adventurous challenge, various opportunities to learn in social settings, hanging with friends humorous and makes families what they should be; unique and loved unconditionally.
18. When a child sees you, light up like they are the best gift you could have ever been given. Each and every time.
19. Sit on the floor/grass with your children. It means a lot to them and their vantage point is amazing.
20. Love someone? Tell them AND show them.
21. During times of sadness, feeling overwhelmed, etc. take one day at a time. Sometimes it’s one hour at a time.
22. When someone tells you that you hurt them, you don’t get to decide that you didn’t. -Louis CK
23. Be messy, and complicated and afraid, and show up anyway. -Glennon Doyle Melton
24. It’s never too late to make a big change. Big changes are the scariest, yet the most rewarding in the end. You will then wonder why you didn’t do it earlier.
25. Do NOT do what is expected.
26. Rules are meant to be broken (learned this from my child) History gets made when you act a fool.
27. You can respect a role without respecting the person.
28. Listen to the person talking to you. Truly listen, do not just wait to respond. Make eye contact and don’t look away at other things.
29. Accept apologies. But, only accept sincere, straight-from-the-heart apologies from someone who rarely needs to apologize.
30. Apologize. Look them in the eye, tell them why you are sorry and learn from it. Make it a point to not have to apologize to that person again.
31. Good people make bad decisions. They just do. Even the kindest, most compassionate people make poor decisions.
32. It’s okay to disagree with someone. Do it respectfully.
33. SOMETIMES, ask for forgiveness instead of permission (another tip learned from my child).
34. If there is a toxic person in your life, even if a family member, you CAN choose to NOT have them in your life. Your choice. Simple.
35. Ask others: “Are you okay?” and “How can I help?”
36. Laugh. Laugh a lot and daily. Need help with it? Watch Ellen, Kevin Hart or anything Robin Williams.
37. Empathy is important, extremely important. Gotta have it. Make sure your kids have it.
38. Dance! Dance in the kitchen. Dance with your small kids. Dance with your grown kids. Dance in the car.
39. Compliment others.
40. When someone does something that you appreciate, tell them. Do this often.
41. Sometimes, you just have to say (and convince yourself) “It is what it is”.
42. Have family game nights.
43. Spend oodles of time with your parents.
44. Write down the funny/not so funny things your kids say and do.
45. Never stop dating your spouse.
46. Marry that person that agrees with all 45 of the above tips.